by Anana Harris Parris, Founder Self Care Agency & SisterCARE Alliance
Those who enjoy being smarter than others tend to always say, “The solution is controlling your response to others’ behavior, not controlling others.” Although that is true, that particular solution only works if your self-care and self control muscles are already strong. If you are at the beginning of your Self Care Journey, that statement merely sounds good. A young or old person may volunteer harshly delivered, generally insensitive or downright mean comments that trigger a sore spot in you causing sadness and feelings of insecurity. Those sore spots in our hearts and spirits are hard to ignore. In fact, to be, as therapists would say, “healthy” it is best to address those sore spots head on so you can begin enjoying life. Isn’t it easy to read that suggestion as a sentence? ‘Deal with your sore spots head on so you can begin enjoying life better’. If it was that easy, clearly many of us would have done it by now. Well, the emotional experience of dealing with difficult people may not be easy however what can make the process of addressing those sore spots easier is coming up with a plan while on your Self Care Journey for dealing with people who make it harder. Here are 5 Tips on how to deal with moments when people who knowingly or unknowing, intentionally or unintentionally make your Self Care Journey harder.